The manifesting myth that kept me stuck for years (and probably you too)
Misconception #3: You have to be positive all the time, or else…
(Please enjoy this excerpt from my new book, The Manifesting Fix, where I break down the biggest manifesting myths keeping you stuck, how to overcome any personal blockages, and finally manifest the goods...for real this time.)
Spend five minutes falling down the TikTok #manifestation rabbit hole and you’ll deduce that if positive thoughts attract good things and negative thoughts attract bad things…
“I better not let any negativity into my mind… Must. Be. Radiant.”
Ironically, this is one of the worst ways to live your life and attract what you want. Trying to be positive 24/7 is not only an impossible waste of time (and not very self-loving). Not what you came here for.
You came here to experience it all. The highs, the lows, the WTF moments, and everything in between. And believe it or not, those “bad” feelings? They’ve got gifts for you, like clarity, wisdom, and important personal truths, like the realization that your ex was never your soulmate…he was just tall.
Who are we really fooling here?
You’re not fooling anyone with your positive affirmations and “I’m fine” spiel.
There is a fine line between positivity and toxic positivity, also known as gaslighting yourself.
You’ll know it’s real when it feels like a relief, it feels good. More open. More you. But when you’re faking it, shoving negative thoughts and feelings deep down for the sake of “good vibes only”, only to cover them up with some cute little affirmations, you’re not fixing your vibration. You’re denying your personal truth.
And what do we know about suppressed emotions? Whatever you deny, suppress or disown (Cough, cough—resist!) will only fester inside until it is expressed. Or worse, it can become one of your dominant points of attraction.
Regardless, if you don’t consciously express it in a healthy way, it will pop back up when you’re least expecting it (usually in your romantic partnerships or large family gatherings🤦🏻♀️).
So what’s a person to do if they are having an off day?
What to do when the negativity comes (and it will)
Release the judgment of yourself, process whatever feelings are coming up, and move the hell on! One off day is not going to sabotage your entire timeline.
You know how many times I’ve thought to myself: “Wow, I am going to die alone in a pile of unmatched socks.” And guess what? Still here, and married! Now matching, and losing, socks for two.
When being a masterful manifester, it’s not negativity that you need to avoid… It’s resistance.
Here’s the difference: Negativity is weather passing through. Resistance is standing outside in a hurricane, shaking your fist at the sky, demanding it stop raining.
So don’t resist. Allow.
Allow the good, the bad, and the ugly to pass like the weather. Go inside. Wait it out. Let it clear.
The goal was never to be positive all the time, it’s to be authentic as much as you can. That’s where the real magic is.
Want the other manifesting misconceptions? There are plenty more inside The Manifesting Fix. I break down the biggest myths keeping you stuck, plus the frameworks that actually work (no toxic positivity required).
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P.S. The "unmatched socks" story was in 2019. I manifested Jeff (my husband) and a life I actually love in 2020—while still being anxious, moody, and occasionally a hot mess. The Manifesting Fix explains how. 😉
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